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发表于 2011-3-3 02:24:19
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Fromsouth
The English Patient (1996) 2005-09-30
This is one of my favorite movies. When I think of it, I am thinking one English word that I actually learned to use it after I came to this country: Passion.
What is passion? What kind of thing we can call it passionate? Someone may say: that is love without thinking it through, impulsive emotions...
As Chinese, we never do things like that, we are the most reasonable group of people on earth. We think that is irresponsible, childish, and no future... But are we missing something in our logical way of decision making? I think we might, just a little bit real taste of the emotion, something that can make our heartbeats going crazy about a person, a hobby, or just a kind of feeling.
In the movie, both of them knew their so strong forbidden love could just destroy them together, eventually it did, and he, just could not keep the passionate emotion under control, he made such fool of himself because of that. She was more logical per say, but she knew that was her chance of true love... Two kind of struggling, same kind of reason.
The promise he made to her just brought two hearts together and tore everything a part at the end. There was nothing else on his mind beyond the idea of going back with help to save her, which put him through a crazy journey and a series of unbelievable decisions. We could call that crazy, and believed he could already save her if he use his brain instead of his heart, or we could see his passion through the pain... As the viewer, we lost our mind with him...
He did come back, but he did not keep his promise...
I will remember the blue sky, the golden sand, and the snow white scarf flying off the desert...
Dear From South (Tracy?)
I wish to thank you personally for such an accurate narrative of this movie. It is a beautiful description of not only how different cultures develop relationships but also how we fail. A timely reminder
First I think the words you are looking for though instead of “reasonable people”, are “practical” and /or “sensible” which I would understand to be the logical course in securing a materially stable and functional relationship with the thought of having love grow. But that is not what will always guarantee lasting love
It is passion and romance that allow us to think outside the box and see “other forms of logic” when reasoning with love and matters of the heart in order for it to be successful.
It is also passion and our romantic side (which can be our downfall and ruin us) which drives us to promise something to someone which we shouldn’t do in the first place instead of maybe listening to reasons for not making it. A promise we’re asked to make without knowing all the reasons.
But we do it anyways to please the other person hoping that we are fulfilling their need to make the relationship work and that maybe they have found what they want. And we do it hoping sometimes the friendship will become more than what it is.
Perhaps it’s better not to promise at all, and see what path logic, passion, and romance naturally takes in guiding the relationship. That would be a more honest approach and less damaging.
I learned recently, that no matter if you are told all the reasons or not. If you promise something to someone, then you have to keep it even if you don’t understand or can’t live with the other person’s reasons for asking you to make it in the first place.
In the end, that is all that counts; that you keep your word. That is what will make a relationship or friendship last forever and nothing else.
Passion and romance will drive you to ignore the logic behind the your partner's reasoning and cause you to pursue and question the motives for asking you to keep that promise. Eventually the promise is broken, sometimes for very honest, valid, and legitimate reasons.
But that doesn’t matter because it still destroys the one essential ingredient in a relationship or friendship………; Trust.
Without that you don’t have anything.
I made a promise I couldn’t keep and most likely lost a friendship forever because the trust is no longer there.
Trying to keep faithful to that promise was a result of the passion to keep the romance alive; at the riskly cost of losing one's own sanity, the relationship, and ignoring what was really needed…..
What was needed was to not agree to making the promise at all. And to find a better solution/answer for what my friend needed from me, to help them feel more secure with what was bothering them.
A valuable Lesson learned forever.
PS: If you enjoyed "The English Patient" you will possibly enjoy "The Wind And The Lion" and "Sheltering skys"
The soundtracks for all 3 films are excellent |
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